"Recently I conducted a workshop for people working in alcohol and drug programs. The group included technicians, counselors, and family therapists. One of the workshop members, a battered woman, shared her story. When she finished, the first response was from a man who said ‘It sounds, from what you said, as if this man is an alcoholic, is he?’ A discussion about her husband continued for several minutes until I stopped it and asked the group to examine what was happening. I pointed out that no one had acknowledged the woman in any way - how she felt, what was happening to her, or even what it meant for her to tell her story to the group. Most significantly, even when I described what was happening, some people understood, but others did not. Some were, in fact, bewildered by what I said. Their confusion stemmed from their sense that no one actively denigrated, judged, or attacked her. In fact, the group felt they responded to her. What was probably outside their experience to understand was that their focus on her husband told this woman he was the one who counted in her story. Their responses implied her value was as a conduit to him, to illuminate him for others to understand, judge or vilify."
Judy Garland – It Never Was You (59 plays)
Bullet Drawing II
Lead bullet drawn into wire
"I see stars
in the afternoon sky"
Hayley Mills & Deborah Walley – (0 plays)